The other day I was texting someone. One of her texts contained a misspelling. She sent the corrected version of the word with “I wanted to correct this word before you did.” I had no intention of correcting the misspelling. In fact, I don’t think I have EVER corrected her spelling or grammar.
I NEVER correct anyone’s grammar. (Except at work where editing is totally my job.)
This is not the first time someone has said that. People always think I’m going to correct them. Just because I write and edit for a living doesn’t mean I’m going to edit daily conversations. It’s rude. And I prefer not to be rude. To me, offering unwanted grammar advice is belittling. It makes people feel stupid. I don’t like making people feel stupid (unless they wage grammar wars, then it’s game on).
I’m not that person who says, “Don’t you mean you’re doing WELL?” after asking someone how she is and she says, “Good.” I’m not even the person who answers with “well” when people ask me how I am. I think it sounds pretentious. I know it’s right. They know it’s right. But I just don’t like it and I feel awkward saying it.
So then, why do people always think I will correct their grammar? Just because I enjoy editing does not mean I’m going to go around correcting everyone’s grammar so they don’t annoy me with their poor grasp of syntax. I have manners.
Of course, I can’t say the same for what’s going on in my head.