The opposite of empathy

Solipsistic. It means self absorbed. I heard this word several times over the past week. It’s not hoe it sounds. People didn’t call me “solipsistic” (thank goodness). All of the mentions were from the same book. Being the ever-learning person that I am, I looked up the definition.

And now I get the humor the author was trying to communicate. The person in her story had to look up the word solipsistic when she herself should be pictured next to the word in Webster’s. 

Wait. That’s not me. I AM writing a blog about myself… Does that make me solipsistic? Perhaps a little.

As hippie as it sounds, I’ve reflected on this word for the past week. Where did it come from? What is the origin? How is it used today?

Solipsism originated as a theory that a person doesn’t acknowledge anything exists outside of his/her own experiences. 

Gee. Sounds like a lot of people. Sounds like me sometimes. It’s very hard to be able to understand situations that you yourself have not experienced. We make life choices based on our own experiences. Our experiences define us. 
But that doesn’t mean we are exempt from acknowledging or at least trying to understand others’ situations. 

It’s empathy. Some consider empathy as “being ok with everything” and having loose morals because you “accept” others decisions or lifestyles. I think there’s a difference. I can have very strong differing opinions but still acknowledge and understand that someone reached her position in life through a series of decisions based on experiences. And I can understand that I may not understand, but that doesn’t devalue her existence.

I think today, it’s easy to hate what we don’t understand. Solipsism is rampant and it’s disguised as high morals and strong convictions, but really, all it is, is ignorance.

Empathy is hard. That’s probably why so many people don’t bother even trying. But I will. I’ll continue to try to be empathetic, because I definitely don’t want to be solipsistic.

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